All I can do is give you a few things to think about, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or friend that you trust. Is he cheating when you find blatant signs? Its off limites to me! Have you ever taken the responsibility for why your partner would cheat? And if she knew he was doing things with me, then she would txt. About a year into living here he starts staying late at work more and more oftenusually getting home at midnight sometimes even 2am. not even after 1 month i saw him at shoping centre with a women in his car i approached him , u know what he went to park his car from distance not for woman to see what is going on. I wish men would just be honest with their wives. This is where men and women differ, her idea of dealing with it is not the same as a mans idea, hence escorts etc! Ive been making 36 yrs the 1st of November. That is what started spiking my concern. According to Winter, deciding whether to tell your partner may ultimately come down to the type of infidelity it was. Like me, Im certain, you too never imagined something like this would ever happen to youLets try our best to be strong for ourselves, as well as one another. we are together for over 8 yrs with two kids now. We went through counseling to salvage our marriage. M sorry but, I dont spy on anybody so I dont think so! i am so confused,what happens to me and my unborn child and how do i fight this fraustration cos i love him so much. So, it brings me, again, to ask why are you asking women who have and can lose everything they ever wanted in life: a husband who is faithful if you should have an affair with a married man? So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. Last year july he told me that he was going on a fishing weekend with some guys from his work, i did not think it strange as he did that often. Like two weeks after we got married we went on a honeymoon. Because all hes done sence we been together is lie to my face. Ummm okay. The hardest part for me right now is letting it go. In fact, 88% of men say their affairs are with women who arent more beautiful than their wives. She swore nothing sexual but all she cared about was her boyfriend who works the other shift and was very defensive. He is a very handsome guy and doesnt look like a man who would smoke weedhe graduated college and has been with lots of women in the past but because Ive been cheated on and physically abused by my ex it has made me very paranoid that he is cheating on me. Now Im 41 years old and Im at high risk and he doesnt want to adopt or try another fertility treatment. I have experienced my partner being inappropriate with female colleagues. He went out of town a few days later and I studied his cell phone records. I do want to believe him and stay with him the only thing is, Im afraid of being cheated on again. He was angry. Their texts began in December, it was now August, they were more and more each month, he called her when out of town before he called me, they texted every day as soon as they left work, he called her on the weekends etc. Not sure what to do Been with my fianc for 4 years, we have an amazing little boy together. Ultimately, if you feel my husband acts like he thinks . Visit my family and was away from him a month and half. That is neither respect, love or caring that they are showing to you when they do this, it is a selfish, self pitying behaviour no matter how anyone sugar coats it. And I swear I never nag him, I never tell him what he can and cant do, Im guessing by now he probably is cheating on me. He won't admit it but I have plenty of circumstantial evidence that says otherwise (text msgs on phone bill & sketchy behaviors). Wow. Stop believing everything you read from people youve never met who people you have no clue what experience they went through. There are some really interesting tips and ideas for how to know if your husband is cheating in the book I cite. Are you happy in this relationship? She was just someone he got on with. S O S Please help me :(. My ex husband was cheating on me and lying about it. Let's pretend I have proof that your husband never had an affair and that this woman is just a super awesome work friend who makes him laugh. You need time to grieve the fact that your husband cheated on you and lied to youand then you have to think about what to do next. But I see through him.. what should I do? Until 2 years ago I thought that I could trust him emphatically. For the most part, we get along great. Since the beginning, I suffered through numerous emotion breakdowns. My husband has been working for the past month from Sunday to Sunday. She is right.follow that feeling 2 inches behind your belly button. Thank you for sharing how to know if your husband is cheating. he always says how annoying theyre and how much he dislikes them but i feel like he has an affair with one of them. Betrayal is such a painful and difficult experience that extends far beyond the physical act. But emoji still appear on frequently used. I want to trust him.. and I dont have any real evidence of any kind of infidelity I read the signs of a husband cheating, and he doesnt really exhibit any of these.. if anything, hes hyper-sexual with me, and always has been. We do not have any children nor is there anyone else living with us that I would be able to ask as well therefore; how is it that I am ACCUSING him?? hi my name is kathryn and my husband has his own construction company and my son works for him times are hard so he let my sons girl frend work with him job was to wright estaments ride with him all day looking at jobs and no i didnt like this he also would carry viagra and pain pills with him and as you no he says nothing went on why cant i belive this. But little did he know I had the texts between the two of them proving that she wasnt crazy and that he was a liar. I dont know your husband at all, but I know men sometimes pull away when they feel stressed or unable to care for their families. Perhaps you feel you nagged him too much, or you didnt get dressed up to impress him as much because you were busy with the children. You deserve better!!! I know better than this. It was weirdhe says he loves me and talks about future plans and is looking for a house to buy for us but when I talk to him about my feelings he changes the subject a lot or doesnt look like he is listeningsorry this is so long but please pleases help me with some advice. You have to think of all the heartache involved with EVERYONE in the family! I know I should trust my instincts but after 20 yrs? I decided once and for all that day i will never ever turn my back to that person in my life agan enough is enough. Husbands try to convince their wives that shes crazy for thinking hed have an emotional or physical affair which is so destructive to her self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-image. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-cope-with-failed-relationship/, Ok so me and my husband have been married for a year we have lived together for 10 years and have 7 beautiful children together. My husband went to Las Vegas the weekend of November 9th November 12th. One is with a coworker. If I could help you, what would you like me to do? Show a man love, faith, warmth, hard work and he will follow you. My heart has been torn out and Im not sure if our marriage is even worth working on now. I noticed that he has texted a specific number over 200 times over the last 2 weeks. I just found out through pics on his phone and he said it was just porn. Im 32 weeks pregnant and from the beginning my boyfriend has cheated on me. It just hurts to know that someone you would anything for thinks you arent enough. I know my gut instinct is right. He walked to his vehicle and left the parking lot and I proceeded into the store. There is an instinct within us that drives us to procreate with different partners because that results in successful dispersion of our genes. I dont want to tell him about the tracker cause I want to keep track so I know he is lying to my face, this is killing me and I cant function we have 2 girls 7 & 4 and I dont want to break up our home but Im so scared its killing me. And most importantly stop accusing him and telling him everything you know. I have been married almost 2 years. That is the decision you must make. Does he insinuate you are crazy? at his work place. During our marriage 3 years ago he got and 18 year pregnant, I stayed with him as long as I could. He cuddles with me at night for about 5 minutes, never leads to anything sexual. He was the perfect husband and dad, caring, helped around the house, gave me surprises every know and then, that is why I never suspected it, and now I am totally confused and do not know if i should give him an opportunity thinking he will never do it again. I was heart broken. I still dont know if Im getting the whole truth. He controls my every move. If these men truly knew what they did to those they proclaim to love by these indiscretions, they would never start them in the first place. Am I overreacting or am I searching for things? because Ive been cheated on and I know how it feels. Really? When the weekend comes around he spends it with me and my son. He has robbed me of my what used to be a happy life!! I know her and never once had any thought or concern, especially since she is overweight and that is a problem for him where women are concerned. Instead of his boss he went with a female colleague. Remember thatIve been married 16 years and while we have had our shares of ups and downs I couldnt ever imagine cheating on my spouse or vice verse! Phone is always connected to him. Without being vindicative, maybe he isnt getting what he feels he needs or expects or is entitled to because hes not holding up his end of the relationship? Its not only in the nature of man to have multiple partners. Im left sitting here for 3 or so months now feelin the fool and like Ive lost my mind. Im devastated. If I ask him something he doesnt want to answer he will try and make me feel bad. Thank you. Are you in love with your wife and want to connect with her more? And im also wondering if his lack of being able to get fully erect with me is also a sign of infidelity. That I was no longer exciting and that he felt he married too young. Im hurting. Its a perfectly natural ability to obtain and foster. I know my husband has had at least 3 affairs on me. I forgave him after having anothet womens bsby and now this!!! We had a huge reckoning to each other. I know she wants him just by the way she moved away from him really fast when I walked over to him. After accidentally catching my husband cheating on me 4 years ago he finally admitted all of the suspicions I had and it turns out he cheated on me twice. I would never leave my husband but I use the Internet to find younger guys who are up for it! He would tell me i didnt parent correctly considering he is a new parent. I dont know what to do. We have been together 6. I was in such a state about Mom, that clearly I wasnt thinking but did email her and assumed by hearing from me and knowing my mother was dying , this woman woukd have the decency to respect boundaries. ???? He has an addict problem. What a douche! Or the situation. Narcissists won't usually admit to cheating on their partner. If we were out for fathers day and she texted him to say be at the office in 20 min, he would run. Your gut is telling you something, and you need to listen to it. He went to theatre to watch it. I dont understand why my husband is the way he is. Im just not sure what to do about any of it. I went through with it anyway. There is no question he is cheating and possible on drugs. Well my situation continues to spiral downwards. She would message him late at night, call late at night, even early hours of the morning, and he would jump to her tune all the time. And had a sweet little one together. Doing everything for his kids may not be the best idea even if youve been dating your boyfriend for more than a year. Please give me your insight on this. Yup, white crud in underwear, but i couldnt prove it. Use the emotional judo of knowing that most affairs burn out and decide for yourself how long you will . Write down the answers. Theres so much more. WE were only just us the first year we started dating. I have the gut feeling, but he has a quick tongue and am not sure what to believe. but looking for something more on the side! Jennifer, I want to start by saying that I am truly sorry youre going through this devastation. I asked if theyd had sex and he said it didnt work out, he couldnt get a hard on, no details He said he called her and told her not to call him anymore, but when I check the phone records he was still calling. I dont know if my story helps you at all, its pretty grim. And some will continue to cheat unless caught. It is easy. He then walked off into another room. However, he has cheated on me five times now. The internal struggle , the tug of war between disgust-rage-pain-humiliation- rejection and fear- love- desire- want- need is enough to kill you. Its not easy to pick up and leave, is it? I never sensed that he is cheating on me, but my instint tells me he is. Ami, Im sorry in my experience men and women cant be friends because you take away from his relationship with his wife. He always says he loves me and would never dream of cheating, and is just the sweetest guy.. but lately, he finds excuses to get away from the house, I found lube in his car, then just today, I see that he left for work without his ring on. He left me briefly last November b/c he said we fought to much and he needed a break. Okay so I take him back like a ideot. And no amount of talking and making excuses will cover up the fact that we chose to stay with a spouse that cant be trusted. Thanks!:). Your venting helped me put the missing pieces together. Ive smacked him on his head but that hasnt helped yet. Im on the brink of a divorce and we havent even been married a week. That is why part of me wants to believe he's innocent. He maintains this woman is in no way, shape or form interested in him. As well as working with a counselor, you should sit down and discuss any boundaries you would like to set in your marriage. To my amazement he had been telling women that the only reason he was on there was to have sex. I regret to inform you that you speak the truth. Found that out cause of the phone bill. I dont know what to do. I do not know what to do. The man is trying like Hell to cheat on you. How can i trust or get him to admit. Also, it seems I found a brunette hair in his work truck which am truly sure is not mine. I asked him who was that name Vanessa written in his notebook, he said its his engineer. TRUST YOUR GUT AND PRAY THE HOLY SPIRIT WOULD REVEAL ANY DARKNESS TO YOU. Two of the most important things to remember are that it takes a long time to forgive your husband for cheating, and forgiveness is a daily effort. I cook,clean, work, go to school, and dont go out often so i can get my future together. I have to show every sign of happiness towards him or he will try to make me feel bad. Not even the desire to watch tv. pls help! I got married 2 yrs ago. Take courage. 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